I realise Jehovahs Witnesses (JWs) are somewhat wise, maybe.

I must have looked sad, or maybe a little lost the other day, for a Jehovah’s Witness thrust a leaflet at me, entitled Help for Those Who Grieve

(One day I will tell you the story of my first visit to Hong Kong, when I had the door slammed in my face, by my friend’s mother, mistaking me and my tall British husband for JWs.

Over the years, I’ve not slammed, but politely closed the door on many a JW, but the advice contained within this leaflet is sound, helpful even, if you ignore all the God stuff.  It made me stop and think about my time here.  Whilst I’m not grieving, and nobody died, all of the 12 points seem appropriate to helping me get the most out of my trip and search.

  1. Accept support from family and friends.  I’m down in numbers out here, so please send virtial support
  2. Watch your diet and make time for exercise.  So less dim sum and more swimming.
  3. Get plenty of sleep.  No more 02.00 What’s App chats then, and my blog to be finished by 11pm latest
  4. Be flexible.  A must when living in an 8 bed dorm.  Enotional and physical flexibility essential for lower bunk, stuff in a big cage under bed, living.
  5. Avoid self destructive habits.  Yes.  I can tick this one.
  6. Balance your time.  Must do more and worry less about telling everyone what I’m up to.
  7. Keep a routine.  Struggling with this one.  No food until 16.00 today, went to sleep 04.00 finally.
  8. Avoid making big decisions too soon.  So maybe I should think longer about disappearing off to Vietnam for 2/3 weeks over Christmas?
  9. Remember your loved one(s). I think they mean the person who’s died.  I have no problem in remembering my absent and much missed family and friends.  Hence the 02.00 conversations.
  10. Get away.  I already did.
  11. Help others.  No problem as long as they’re not asking for directions in Cantonese.
  12. Reevaluate your priorities.  Yes, very important.  I’m keeping a check on whether my ladder is up against the right wall before I get to the top.

So with points 3,6, 7 and 12 in mind, it’s goodnight from me, and goodnight from the good ol’ JWs.

By backstagestives

Looking for my long lost family in Hong Kong
And previously....
Fell in love with coastal living 5 years ago. And moved to stunning St Ives. A place to create and grow and flourish. Got me a home and a job. And never looked back. Everyone talks and writes about the famous dead people of St Ives. Virginia and Alfred and Ben and Barbara and Peter and Wilhelmina. Well I thought I’d introduce you to some very nice folk, and they’re all very much alive and make St Ives a much the better town for it.

3 replies on “I realise Jehovahs Witnesses (JWs) are somewhat wise, maybe.”

I love reading your blogs. Currently in Clopton enjoying the last of the roses – not many now. But winter jasmine is breaking out. Glad the bags arrived with all the documents. Enjoy the search. Keep swimming.


You will always have my love and support whichever wall you decide to put your ladder up. Finding time to lose yourself in what you love can just as easily be Dim-Sum.

Are you picking up emails?


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Yes. Emails on normal address fine. I think I have a whole row of ladders that I’m climbing simultaneously. Leaping from one across to another. Sort of like plate spinning? They are made of bamboo at the moment.


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