Bessie and Yuki the two Red Cross workers were delightful and will go to the last known address of my half sister this week. They asked to hear the whole story and when I said ‘in a nutshell’ they wouldn’t accept this. For the first time since I’ve been away, (even when I got knocked over by the scooter in Vietnam) I felt on the verge of big sobs, hearing myself telling the whole sad story, of both my birth and adopted family. But I didn’t want to lose it, but both workers said Winnie (who was also welling up) and I should go and see the new film Instant family – and let the tears roll. They’d been and said there wasn’t a dry eye in the house. Lots of other things have happened since that meeting but for now I am getting in the mood for New Year, aided by all the amazing decorations going up around me.
I do know at some point the flood gates will open – but for now I’m hanging on until I’ve done all the ‘business’ stuff. I’m staying focussed. Winnie demands this of me, even when I say I need a cup of tea after our Red Cross meeting she says ‘we don’t have time as we have to head over to government offices in Wanchai to get the results of the general death search for your birth father’. Sadly, and annoyingly for Winnie, this, and another search for another adoptee’s birth certificate produced ‘no results’. Poor Winnie. She was so frustrated and we nearly ended up in fisty cuffs with the senior officer we were passed to after Winnie got cross with the first junior one. A long conversation about what general data search actually gets you for £68 ensued. Plus confirmation if you’re adopted within HK you won’t be given a birth certificate so as to protect your birth parents’ identity. Lucky me again as I have one already!
Ah well. The good news is I’ve managed to persuade the International Social Services (ISS) department to let me see the records they hold without having their normal two mandatory counselling sessions.
So now 18.12 I am A little tired of all this. I bet you are too !
So let’s gave some light relief in the Year of the Pig
Happy nearly new year of the pig everybody.